How to turn electronic distractions into foreplay

Do you find yourself scrolling endlessly through Instagram or TikTok videos during bedtime and before you know it your partner is asleep and it’s midnight?

Well if you want a relationship full of passion you are not going to get it by being on your phone or tablet. Phones have become one of the biggest distractions in the bedroom. Let’s not forget the television as a close second. We need to take back the bedroom and our cuddle time by ditching the distractions.

Now if you are the type of person who must have your phone next to your bed because maybe you use your phone as an alarm or you need the television because you hate the quiet at night I have some ideas for you.

I personally would prefer all electronics removed from the bedroom. I charge my phone and watch outside of my bedroom. The television has a timer so it goes off whether I am asleep or not because realistically I should be sleeping or enjoying the company of my partner. There are those times when I have to pry the phone out of my husband’s hands or what is suppose to be a night of passion turns into a night of arguing about the excessive use of electronic devices. I also must admit I sneak my laptop in from time to time when I need to finish a project or reply to emails, which is another no-no. Complete it before you go into the bedroom. Bedrooms need to be our sanctuaries, away from it all.

I have come up with some fun ways to use these pesky electronics as foreplay. I just have to add please be responsible when using electronics for these suggestions, we don’t want things getting into the wrong hands.

• If you see your partner on their phone during bedtime find another area in the house and put on your sexiest nighttime wear and take some pictures of yourself. As you take a picture, send it to your partner. Please make sure you are sending it to your partner. Double, triple-check the name before sending. I am very serious about that! Continue to send pictures until they come to find you or start to question what you are doing. Challenge them to come to find you and when they arrive take it from there. Hopefully, the pictures create a fire for you both and one thing leads to another.

• Allow your phone or tablet to play the music that puts you both in the mood for lovemaking. Start out with a little come get me dance or dance in each other’s arms. Don’t do this for too long, make your way to the bed. Be sure to create a playlist for this occasion. You would hate for the music to start off nice and romantic only to end with loud and chaotic music.

• Televisions are also a distraction in the bedroom. Choose a movie or show that you know will have some intimate scenes. When the scenes take place cuddle a little closer to your partner encouraging them to hold or touch you. If you just can’t think of something to watch that will encourage love-making, there are alternatives, if you know what I mean.

• Another great way to use the television is to put on one of those mood-setting themes from youtube. They have so many mood settings from jazz playing in a cafe to a fire going in a spa setting. Just turn it on and forget it. Let it help with ambiance.

• Lastly, use your phone as a reference. If there is a new position you want to try or you need some foreplay tips for the bedroom use your phone to look it up. Do this with your partner, make them a part of the process. Researching anything related to sexy time is sure to entice you both into a night of lovemaking.

In this life, we are faced with so much uncertainty and it is a waste to use all of your time with your face in a phone or your eyes glued to the t.v. Take advantage of the alone time you have with each other, because one day you will look up and wonder where the time went or why you all are not connecting like you use to.