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Is It Love? Or Comfort?
When you have been with someone for so long, sometimes you wonder is the love still there or is it just you’re comfortable being in a stable relationship. I believe I am in LOVE because the feelings I had in the beginning of the relationship are still some of the feelings I have currently. I blush when being flirted with I love being told “I love you” I love being touched I sometimes get butterflies when I know we have something special planned I still desire spending quality alone time with my love and I still can get jealous of other women showing an interest in my man Now the COMFORT comes with overlooking the…
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5 Things Not To Do on Valentine’s Day
Oh, it’s Valentine’s Day in a couple of weeks. I didn’t realize! Actually Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays my husband and I choose not to celebrate. I mean after being married for 18 years it just loses it luster after the dating years. We acknowledge that it is Valentine’s Day and we encourage new couples and newlyweds to show each other how much they love one another on this day, but in reality your love should be showing everyday. Little acts of love should be happening weekly or at least three to four times a month. You should not need a holiday to express how much you care for someone. But,…
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Ex Lovers as Friends
This is a question that has been posed to me and my acceptance of it in my marriage. Now if you follow my blog or podcast you know how I feel about ex anything. Ex-boyfriends, Ex-girlfriends, Ex friend with benefits, ex whatever it is not happening in my relationship. Some may say I am insecure, but believe me that is not it. I trust my husband and I trust our union, now can I trust that the ex only wants to be a friend, well, that I don’t know and I don’t think there is ever a way to tell. Things always start out innocent but remember there was a reason they dated…
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Marriage Advice for Men, 10 things you can do to maintain a healthy relationship.
I know that most men feel that the relationship and marriage advice on the internet is geared toward the woman. Although the topics don’t specify, men may just feel that if it doesn’t specifically say for men, then it must be advice just for women. Well I have some advice just for men, and it says it in the topic, so men, read on. Women, I feel don’t ask for much in a relationship. Don’t cheat Tell me you love me Give me some attention Be wise with money See, that’s not bad. But let me guess, it’s too much to ask. Some men have betrayed themselves to be this tough makeup…
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5 Marriage Tips for Newlyweds
Congratulations it is the beginning of a wonderful relationship. You have married the one, and your ears are closed from advice. You know everything about married life, because you are in love and your partner has chosen to be with you forever. Forever and ever and ever. I mean that’s why they call it happily ever after, right? Wrong! If you want your marriage to survive beyond the first year you have to be open to some advice from the marriage veterans who have been there done that. I don’t mean your gossip Suzy or know everything about women Tom, I mean your seniors who have been at this for over 20 years…
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The Big Argument!
Have you ever been so mad at your partner that you say things you regret? How about your so angry you can’t express yourself, and the things you want to say you can’t? I’m sure we have all been there, and every relationship experiences moments of anger and disappointment. The problem comes with how we do or do not express ourselves during that big argument. I know when I am upset I go in hard. I become so angry that any smirk or facial expression of thinking I’m a joke from my partner can cause me to shout and scream or shut down and lock myself away from everyone.
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Relationship judgement, Give up or keep fighting?
Being judged for who you love can be so exhausting. You are constantly trying to defend your relationship and prove to others why this is right FOR YOU. Now more than ever, with all the hidden hate coming into light, we are forced to defend relationships that those may say are non-traditional.
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Time to meet the family, or not.
It’s that time of year when families are getting together for the holidays or love ones are traveling to different places to find comfort in family and friends. This is also that time of the year where most relationships sizzle out or prepare to take that next step, which in most cases is meeting the family. Now family could mean your children, your parents, your siblings, or your extended family members. Are you ready to take that next step? How do you split your time during the holidays with the one you have goo-goo eyes for and the ones who mean the most to you. Now for some, this may take no thought.…
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The Relationship/Dating Journey
Everyday I am looking and observing couples and how they interact with each other. I smile at new love and new relationships, because everything is new and fine tuned. You are not aware of the secrets and hidden information that one withholds when starting a relationship. Their exes are a mystery, how they treat their family is a mystery, and their bedside manner is a mystery. The tragedy comes six months into the relationship when you find out they are married, abusive, bi-curious, or a liar. There are many relationships that start out nice and continue to grow stronger and stronger. You become inseparable and the desire to be together is from both…
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Couples as Friends
Do you and your partner share the same friends? Do you have a group of friends that are yours and a group of friends that you share with your partner? These are questions I wonder about, because I use to think that in order to have a healthy relationship you needed to share friends or at least be able to be friendly with whomever your partner was friends with. Throughout the years I have found that it is not necessary. I do however believe that it is healthy for you and your partner to have one or two friends that you share that are couples. Sometimes it would be nice to travel with…
