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I Love You, but…
All to often relationships end with this saying “I love you, but…”. But what, I’m not in love with you, I don’t want to marry you, I want to explore other opportunities, I’m moving out of state to pursue my dreams, I don’t want children, I’ve met someone else, or we don’t want the same things so I need to move on. Can you really love someone and want to leave the relationship? Absolutely! Familiarity, security, and comfort creates a space of love and a feeling of expectance. Those are things we all want to feel in a relationship, but at what cost? Ask yourself the question what is your ultimate goal in…
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7 ways to stay in love during the quarantine
First I would just like to wish everyone health and happiness during this time in our world. We are all dealing with the heartbreak, uncertainty, and stress of this change in our times. Stay positive, keep positive vibes around you, and don’t forget to share the love no matter the distance. Now, if you are like most of the world and you are required to stay home, being quarantined with the ones you love may have started out as a great opportunity to reconnect with your family, but by week 2 you may have started to get a bit of cabin fever. When stuck in a place with your significant other, with no…
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What is Dating? Why Date?
What is dating and what are my boundaries? Believe it or not this question comes up many times among my single friends. The argument is when dating someone is it necessary to tell that person you are seeing other people or should they just know? Another question is, does dating mean you are dating multiple people or being exclusive? If dating, does that mean intimacy is a part of that? Last question, Why is dating necessary? Now true enough I have not dated in many many years and I am no expert by any means but I do have some insight or maybe an opinion is a better word on this topic. First…
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5 Couples Date Night Outings
Every couple needs a date night once or twice a month, but what about a date night with other couples? If you are one of the lucky ones who have couples who you consider friends and fun to hang out with you will love these fun couple date night outings. I have a group of friends who are married and some are dating and the men all have different personalities, so date night as a group can sometimes be awkward. The women are always chit-chatting away and laughing at inside jokes and the men are hating they agreed to this one-sided outing with strangers. After a while, the men started saying no to…
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Outgrowing Your Relationship
Is there such a thing as outgrowing your relationship? I mean you outgrow shoes and clothes, partying and drinking all night, clubs and bar hopping, but can you also outgrow your relationship? I believe you can. You think about the relationships that you start when you are at a time in your life when dating is new, or when you don’t quite know what you want out of life. Those relationships that you form during those times can drastically change when you broaden your horizon and meet new people who share an interest or when you discover who you really are and the things you want out of life. I think back to…
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Don’t Worry, Be Happy!
Don’t worry, be happy. I never really liked that song or that saying. What do you mean don’t worry? In life, that is all we do if we are responsible adults trying to have a productive adult life. We worry about our relationships, our children, our parents, our jobs, and how well we are doing in life at that very moment compared to everyone else in your life and everyone who imposes their life on you by posting their greatness all over social media. It is human nature to worry, right? Now the second part to that little saying, be happy. You are asking me to forget about all the things that I…
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Marriage Advice from Single Friends/Family
No relationship is perfect. Every relationship has its ups and downs. Will every day be roses and candy? I would like to go on record and say no. We are all human and being human means we make mistakes, we make bad judgments, and sometimes we hide things that later come out to bite us in the rear. Does it make us bad people? No, it just makes us human. Sometimes when we become hypnotized by social media images we start expecting this greatness in our lives all the time and that leads to disappointments and disappointments turn into resentment and resentment into acts we are not so proud of, which leads me…
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5 Traditional Valentine’s Day Ideas Updated!
Although I have personally outgrown the much loved holiday Valentine’s Day I do enjoy hearing other couples stories about how they celebrated. Some stories I am privileged to are cute and memorable and some are just sad and disastrous. If you have read my blog over time you know that my husband and I have given this holiday to the children. When we were younger (before kids and real life) my husband did grand gestures to show his creative and loving side. Now his gestures are simply words “Happy Valentine’s Day” if he remembers. I know it is not that he loves me any less I just know that we have decided a…
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Marriage, is it necessary?
What is marriage? A legal union of two people in a monogamous relationship. Keyword “legal” What does it mean for couples who are religious? When a man and a woman unite to become one flesh. A covenant is formed. Keyword “covenant” What does marriage mean to you and your partner? Is it a step that is necessary. You have the “perfect” relationship. You are committed to each other, and the monogamy of your relationship. You have unwritten rules about your union and you both respect that about each other. You are happy with proving your loyalty to each other every day without legal union representation for the world to see or acknowledge, but…
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Make Time For What Matters
We are so busy with the lives we lead that it becomes automatic after awhile. Careers, family, household duties, the list goes on. They matter but is it what we want to do? I blog about relationships and those relationships go beyond just marriage and dating but also relationships we have with our children, our friends, and our selves. Are we making time for what matters in those relationships? Sometimes I become so routine to the point where a week will go by and all I can remember is waking up, going to work, coming home, doing homework, making dinner, and preparing to do it all over again the next day. If time…
